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Making a fresh start in the Silicon Valley

It’s all Happy Holidays here

No one says ‘Merry Christmas’ or ‘what are you doing for Christmas?’…..it’s always ‘the holidays’ or ‘Happy Holidays!’. The local bus even has ‘Happy Holidays’ displaying where the route number should be. Is it the reference to ‘Christ’ that is unacceptable, or just another cultural difference?

I have found it difficult to find Christmas crackers (bon-bons) here too. Must be an English tradition? Ended up paying $18 for a pack of eight with the usual crappy plastic junk inside. The chocolate advent calendar was another difficult one to track down. Generally there is only one small section in the supermarket for Christmas decorations, tableware, etc, instead of the entire aisle that I’m used to in Australia.

Many houses in our neighborhood have Christmas lights and light-up reindeer on front lawns. It’s very pretty driving around at night. My son was very excited to see frost everywhere this morning. Apparently the black top (asphalt, or bitumen) at school is really slippery with ice.

School breaks up tomorrow and it’s hard to believe they’ll be back into it on January 7th…..no long break here….

Happy Holidays!

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Thanksgiving and Black Friday

We got through Halloween fine, Tim and I were just as excited as the kids – playing around with the dry ice and answering the doorbell with huge smiles. I just threw out the last of the candy, the dregs that no one wanted. Nobody likes candy corn, Tootsie Rolls or Jolly Ranchers. The school offered a candy donation program whereby students bring in their candy and the school receives $1 per pound from an organization that mails all the candy to US soldiers overseas. Interesting…..I wonder how many pounds they got….

Then Thanksgiving became the talk of the workplace (I got a small contract at a local start-up recently), with people describing where they were flying, or what they were cooking at home. Then the office slowly emptied over the three days before Thanksgiving until come Wednesday afternoon there was only 10% of us left. We all bailed at 4pm.

The day itself was weird – to us, anyway. It felt like a holiday, but there were no flags, decorations or parades – just a quiet day being with family. The smell of turkeys roasting wafted down our suburban street. We took some Vegemite sandwiches to Golden Gate park and watched our grown-up kids on the playground equipment.

It was Black Friday when everyone came alive again, the streets busy with cars, queues into the shopping malls, shoppers lining up for midnight store openings. Entering our local electronics store was fun because the shelves were empty and the floor was stacked with boxes of TVs, printers, you name it. There was a feeling of frenzy, but we walked away empty-handed, by choice.

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Halloween Etiquette in the Silicon Valley

As a newcomer in this strange land, I’ve been asking around about what is ‘the done thing’ for Halloween when you have a 10 year old and a 12 year old.

Wearing your costume to school is NOT the done thing according to my daughter’s research efforts…. she mentioned social suicide and harming your reputation in a rant to her little brother this morning when he announced he’d be wearing a Darth Vader cape today to Middle School.

My research has uncovered some rules:

  1. The kids need a flashlight so cars can see them
  2. The costumes need reflective panels so cars can see them
  3. A parent must accompany the kids
  4. The kids can’t do any tricks, ever
  5. The kids must say Thank You and not be greedy (only one piece of candy is allowed)
  6. The kids must wear a costume to get candy
  7. You can only approach a house that has Halloween decorations and a porch light on
  8. You can only trick or treat before 8pm
  9. No candy can be consumed until parents have scrutinized it for evidence of tampering

And, it turns out that kids don’t really walk the neighborhood streets trick or treating here, instead they visit the local shopping center between 4pm and 6pm where the store owners hand out candy. Apparently it’s much safer.

Or, you can drive to the one street in the area that welcomes trick or treating with light displays and performances, but because everyone goes there it’s impossible to get a park.

We’re just going to try our luck with the local houses – my son has a couple of friends coming over and I think they’ll be happy if a handful of homes give them candy – it’s just a fun night out. There will be no reflective lights on costumes, no chaperone and no checking before consumption. I believe the majority of people are good and there’s no need for paranoia.

Happy Halloween!

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Our US hospital experience for a tonsillectomy

Well, first off, the entire operation only cost us $36. My daughter has had several operations in Australia (to insert tubes in her ears), and even with private insurance we were several hundred dollars out of pocket. I couldn’t believe how little we had to pay here. Because we are part of a private network paid for by my husband’s employer, we only have to contribute a ‘co-payment’ for some medical services. Yes, we get a limited choice of doctors and specialists, and we have to drive a few miles to the surgery, but these are small inconveniences compared to affordable health care.

The operation was performed in a newly-built hospital in Santa Clara, with beautiful landscaped gardens, huge windows overlooking the mountains and modern art on every wall. It looked more like a corporate HQ than a hospital, and there was no trace of that funny hospital smell that sets your nerves on edge. My daughter was admitted and then began the four hour wait for surgery. Being almost 12 years old she spent a lot of that time playing and reading on her iPhone while I kept re-reading the same page of my book over and over, trying to act like this was just a normal day.

Recent studies had shown that keeping a patient warm before and during surgery improved their recovery, so a heated air blanket was set up on my daughter’s bed, keeping her warm and toasty. The hospital staff also allowed her to keep her very large teddy bear (1 meter tall) by her side the whole time, and it was even with her while they put her under. A nice touch I think as tearing that teddy away from her would have required several nurses. When it was time to insert the IV into the back of the hand, they brought a different nurse in to do the deed – more of a ‘no nonsense’ nurse instead of the affectionate, caring nurse who had looked after us so far. The task was completed quickly and soon it was time for her to be wheeled off to the operating room. This bit didn’t really happen like it does on TV, with hand-holding and loving gazes, instead she was whisked away quickly and I was guided, in tears, to the waiting area.

In Australia, this is the part where I ball my eyes out in a private waiting room with bad coffee and ancient magazines. This time round I was seated in a large waiting area that was full of people, and I didn’t feel comfortable letting all those emotions out. A hospital volunteer brought a pet therapy dog around, chatting to people and encouraging everyone to pat her dog. It all got too much for me so I went off on a coffee hunt to distract myself.

Eventually I was called into the recovery room to see my daughter hysterically crying and panicking as the drugs made her feel out-of-control. They had her on Vicodin which made her feel drowsy and nauseous. She was extremely thirsty, but couldn’t keep anything down – sucking on ice chips was all she could manage. It took 2 hours for her to calm down and be ready for discharge and they put her into a wheelchair and wheeled her to the car park. I was pretty shocked that they would release her even though she hadn’t drunk anything and was so woozy, but I just wanted to get her home. She slept the whole way home (thankfully) and the next day she still couldn’t keep anything down. After some Googling we took everyone’s online advice and stopped giving her Vicodin – there was an immediate improvement.

She recovered fully within a week, and no longer snores. She can (finally) breathe through her nose and her sleep apnea has gone. She can eat food without having to open her mouth to breathe and we can now see a clear, wide airway where previously her tonsils blocked over 70% of that space. Her metabolism has increased so she is returning to a healthy weight (there is some connection between sleep apnea and not burning calories normally, and our daughter was overweight). But best of all her improved sleep has meant that we no longer have to wake her up every morning, which always seemed such a cruel thing to do to a child, even though it was sometimes pretty funny.

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Half days at school due to funding crisis

Oh dear, parent-teacher conferences start on Monday. What’s amazing is that the kids get 3 days next week as half days to accommodate this activity. Yep, the school district can’t afford to pay the teachers to stay back after class and do the parent-teacher interviews in the afternoon and evening, so instead the appointments are scheduled during the school day after lunch.

The students already get Wednesday afternoons off due to the funding crisis so now they only have Friday next week as a full school day.

You can bet that they’ll just be given lots of extra reading and homework to do so that they don’t fall behind. Oh great, yet more hours of my day spent tutoring the kids at home…….

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Still can’t get tipping right in the Silicon Valley

You eat in a restaurant, you always tip – I’m clear on that one. Pretty similar to back home in Australia, but it’s the subtleties I’m not getting.

A friend and I recently ate in a bakery where we paid at the register and had to come to the counter and collect our food when it was ready. Sure, no tipping, but we also have to clean up the table ourselves when we leave. I think in Australia we would do that in a food court in a shopping mall, or in a cafe when we could see the servers were very busy. But sometimes I forget to clean up. Oops.

I drove into the city of San Francisco earlier this week and it’s common to have valet parking in the public carparks. I struck up a nice conversation with the main attendant, chatted about the weather (of course), and when I accidentally left a compendium in my car he very nicely returned to the car and retrieved it for me. We made more jokes about being forgetful, and he wished me a lovely day. When I returned to collect the car, he swiped my ticket and $17 was displayed, so I handed over a $20. He gave me the change and wished me a nice afternoon again – I walked away and waited for the junior attendant to fetch my car. Then that feeling started again, the doubt and anxiety over whether I should have tipped the senior attendant, even though I was intending to tip the junior guy that I had absolutely no relationship with. Aaargh..what to do….

Handing the tip over to someone is so awkward – I like a tip jar or something less personal (like leaving cash on a table). When I got my haircut recently I knew in advance that I had to tip, but I just couldn’t see how to do it. The hairdresser asked me at payment time if I’d like to donate to some charity (so common here) so by the time that transaction was finished it didn’t feel right to handover a couple of dollar bills to her (just like the charity donation).

And as a recipient of tips through my TaskRabbit work, I never know whether to thank people for tipping me? It’s all done online so I don’t get to thank people face-to-face. I feel it all gets a bit ridiculous, as a tip is really their way of thanking me, so it’s silly to thank them back.

I hope that as I spend more time here I can iron out the tipping tricks and feel confident that I’m tipping at appropriate times, and am a gracious tippee.

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Permanent police presence with Officer Andre

City View

My kid’s Middle School has a police officer permanently stationed at the school. He has his own car park too – the best one right in front of the school office.

The school has 1,100 students covering grades 6, 7 and 8. They are not violent, there are no gangs, they are nice middle-class kids.

Officer Andre supervises the morning drop-offs, then stays in the school office during class time. Over the 40min lunch break he patrols the school yard and again supervises the pick-ups at the end of the school day. My daughter thinks it’s kind of creepy having a policeman watch over you, my son likes Officer Andre because he handed out free t-shirts last year.

Our city government funds the local police department and they have two full-time officers assigned to the Youth Services division. The want to be more pro-active when it comes to youth and crime and spend time with the local kids at school. They run an education program in elementary school called G.R.E.A.T (Gang Resistance Education and Training). In their words “…it’s a pre-emptive strike on criminal activity and youth violence…”.

I’m not sure how I feel about Officer Andre …… it seems like overkill and I generally don’t agree with the overprotective attitude towards kids and their safety. Apparently he’s a really nice guy though.

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Why can’t I get my usual tablets here?

I need to take 5mg Folic Acid tablets daily, but in the US I can only buy 1mg tablets.

The general consensus from my local pharmacist and the two doctors I consulted  is that I’ll just have to take 5 tablets instead of the one.

Really? That is such a pain.

I want to know if this is a supply issue, or a drugs regulation issue, as I don’t see why I can’t get the tablets I need. I guess it’s one of those annoying differences between Australia and the Silicon Valley.

I have asked the Aussie  drug manufacturer, who are owned by a US pharmaceutical company, what the story is.

 

 

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Hop to it TaskRabbit, a San Francisco company

I run errands for people for money. I am a TaskRabbit.

TaskRabbit is an online service for freelancers who bid on completing tasks for people. Many of these tasks are in your local area, but some are virtual tasks too, with clients anywhere in the world.

Anyone can post tasks, and the community can flag inappropriate tasks for removal. I haven’t seen anything dangerous or risque, but there are a lot of lazy people out there, or maybe they’re just too busy? Here are some of my favorites:

  • Babysit my puppy all day (why did you get a puppy?)
  • Revive our lame website (OK, fair call, love the honesty)
  • Write me a letter of recommendation, signed by a doctor (no integrity, what a cheater)
  • Help my girlfriend get a job (what does she think about this?)
  • Let me borrow your kitten for an hour (please explain…)

Amazing to see human nature at work with people feeling uninhibited, confessing they need help with tasks. A lot of tasks are for cleaning or handyman jobs around the home, plenty are for assembling IKEA furniture, and some have a life coach aspect to them where people need help getting motivated.

To date I have done shopping for people, helped to tidy and organise their homes, pulled together care packages for sick friends, and plenty of virtual tasks like giving feedback on eBooks, iPhone apps and some documentation help. It gives me something to do during the day (I hate being idle) and I like the interaction and feedback I get. People rate me and give me nice reviews. I feel appreciated.

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We call it Fall, not Autumn

pumpkincarve

The feeling of Fall is everywhere, oranges and browns, cute decorations on porches, harvest-time flags and pumpkin patches along the roadside.

Most townships have a stall selling pumpkins for decorating for Fall, Thanksgiving and Halloween. As you drive down the main road you see they have erected jumping castles (called bounce houses here) and elaborate displays of pumpkins designed to make you pull over and take a look.

You need to pay $10 for 30 minutes of jump time, then browse the pumpkins and load up your cart, paying $20 per large pumpkin, $12 per medium and $5 per small pumpkin. It’s all very festive and fun, but we ended up dragging the kids away and bought 6 pumpkins for $32 at Safeway. Meh – they’re old enough to know what real life is like!

We get to carve the pumpkins ready for Halloween next week…. should be creative and fun!

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